My first Speed Dating experience
I have tried all sorts of dating like online (Tinder, Bumble, Dil Mil etc), social meetups, mix n match parties, nut n bolts events and now was time to give a shot with speed dating. You must be wondering why I do all these things? It’s just that I like to experience everything possible in my life.
Time for research
Before this, I have never even heard about speed dating, my buddy Gordon (my most reliable wing-man) suggested that we should go to a speed dating event. We searched for some speed dating events happening around Chicago and decided to go with an event with “chicagofirstdates”.
Day of the event
I came in early to the venue which I usually don’t do. The event was in a hotels brunch area which has an attached bar. The first thing I did was to scan the venue and look for any good looking girls. Well people say women like to come late in fashion, the time I got in, there were only 2 women in which 1 was the host, so I went straight up to that single girl and started taking.
My strategy was quite simple, dress well ( I had sports blazer on), be confident and have the following question in mind.
- Complement something they were wearing or how she is looking
- Ask her what are you looking in a guy?
- What are the 3 interesting things about you that you would like to share?
- Just follow the answers and talk more about it.
- Don’t oppose her views
The rules for the event are simple, you will be given 8 minutes with each girl and the bell rings after that. You have to give your best to impress the girl.
I got myself old fashion in my hand and was waiting for the bell to ring.
Girl 1 – The Indian
As the bell rang I went near the first women and sat in front of her, She was tall and had a good personality. Over the years I have seen this particular behavior, Indian women don’t try to interact with Indian men at social places like bar, pubs etc.
I shook her hand & complemented about her smile. she smiled and we started the conversation. I started with asking her what she is looking for in a guy, later followed by asking her about her interesting qualities of her.
The conversation went over for 5 min, in between our conversation she mentioned she is an extrovert and have so many friends and always hang out with so many people. Little to know about me, I have a huge tendency of using sarcasm in my conversations, so I immediately said, “oh really, then why don’t you have a guy yet, if you hang out with so many people.” The second I said that I knew this is was not going to end well. We had an awkward pause, then the bell rang.
Girl 2 – The recent single:
So, this was a kind of my nightmare women that I really don’t wanna be with. She was 31 years old (which by the way she mentioned), recently broke up with her long-term boyfriend. She was beautiful but all the time she was talking about how she was feeling getting out of her previous relationship. She said she was an obsessive shopper and cat women, more red flags for me. later we talked about her dream of becoming a wine connoisseur, that was the only meaningful conversation we had.
Girl 3 – The Hair bangs girl
So ever since I started watching “The new girl”, I have this fetish feeling for girls who have bangs. She was thin with a sweet smile & all this made me wanted to give my A game to her.
As I approached her I gave her I have a firm shake with a big smile. Firstly I complimented how beautiful she was looking with her bangs, she smiled and move her front hair to the side as they were obstructing her vision. I asked my first question about, what was she is looking in a guy? She answered saying how she is looking for a guy who understands her… all through our conversation, we had an amazing eye contact and big smiles on our face. As we were progressing in our conversation the bell rang and I hated this as I wanted to have more time with her (which I did later that night).
Girl 4 – The cute student
The moment I saw her, I knew that I got to win her at any cost. she was a petite, cute looking, doing some sore of a research student. She has this perfect smile with the sweetest dimple I have seen. I shook her hand & appreciated her smile. Throughout our conversation, I couldn’t look away from her.
Before I began to ask she started asking questions to me, I was so into her that I forgot all my strategy and keep having our conversation. We discussed adventures, travel & life etc. In the middle of our conversation, she said, “by the way, let me write down your name in the list before I forget it”. After hearing what she said, there was no going back. With our conversation going on she mentions she is the roommate of the Indian girl who I met earlier. Damn, that’s a bummer. I kinda screwed up my conversation with her and now this is going to hunt me down. We couldn’t keep track of time and the bell rang. I wished we had more time, I left her saying goodbye wishing that we connect with each other (which we did).
Girl 5 – The over enthusiast
She was someone with high educational qualifications and big work career. She was an amazing conversationalist with a charming personality. The problem with her was, she didn’t even keep a small effort to get ready for the event, she looked like she is been working all day and just dropped by. Don’t get me wrong, I really liked the conversation we had, but for me, she would make an amazing friend but the odds were thin on becoming a girlfriend.
I feel it’s kinda hard for women when they have high expectation & when men are being men. It was her 5th event and she is still trying to find her prince charming.
Girl 6- the dumb hotties
NO wonder she was the hottest girl at that venue, but her head was a potato. She was from Puerto Rico and her accent was very hard to understand. She couldn’t answer any of my questions, it was like as if I was explaining my uber driver where I was. I was so waiting for the bell to ring because I couldn’t stand her any longer. We kinda talked about Puerto Rico & what she likes to do, that’s it. The bell rang after 8 min and I left as fast as I can.
that day I realized, it doesn’t matter how hot a woman is, if she is a potato up there, it’s going to be an awful date.
Girl 7 – The Russian beauty
She had this pale skill, towards the heavy side and kind of smile when a person had too much to drink. she laughed to anything I had to say, I didn’t know if she was really liking me or was it the alcohol in her. I saw the opportunity and tried every line in my mind I could. After a minute of our conversation, I wanted to take this to the next level. I gave my phone to her and said “it is obvious that we are into each other, why should we wait for this event people to match us. Just give me your number and I can take you out right now”. She looked at me for a while and laughed loudly, then asked how many girls have you’ve used this line here. I replied, none with a smile. Later she took my phone and typed in her number. holy shit I couldn’t believe this worked.
I never actually liked her but I was happy that I was able to get a girls number in just 5 min.
Girl 8 – TheCougar
Undoubtedly she had the best personality at that venue, but she was around 35 I guess. As soon as we introduced our self, she said, “kid I am only interested in people above 35. I replied, “even I am not interested in women close to menopause”. So we just chatted the usual stuff and said goodbye. Never could understand why she was single.
The event was done but I wasn’t happy yet, I wanted at least a good conversation with a girl. As I was leaving I saw the bangs girl leaving. I quickly ran near the entrance opened the door for her. I asked if she had anything planned for the rest of the night. she replied saying “no, why do you ask?” This was my chance, I replied: ” the night is still young, and there are quite a good bars around, do you wanna grab a beer with me?” I was really hoping she would say yes and after a pause, she said alright. So we went out for a drink that night.
Speed dating was definitely a good option for the people who are looking for serious relationship. it was definitely better than dating apps and we are able to see the person by face and see how the person really look and think like. I just went there for fun and just flirted with a bunch of girls. Try it out and find yourself the person you are looking for.